UNLESS YOU ARE AN ARMY OFFICER, YOU CAN GET BETTER RESULTS BY REQUESTS THAN YOU CAN BY ORDERS.

Armies spend endless hours training people to follow orders without question.
It's an essential quality in a soldier. In everyday life, however, things don't
work that way. Business, political, and civic leaders have learned that ordinary
people will perform exceptional tasks when they are asked-not ordered-to do so.
Even when you are managing other people, you will achieve far more if you
convert every order to a request. Introductory phrases such as,
"Would you mind . . ." or "Could I ask your assistance in . . ." or the always
effective "Please . . ." will ensure success far more often than intimidating
those who work for you. And when you need help from those whose paychecks you do
not control, you will find them far more responsive to requests than to orders.

"Successful People Are Average People Focused"